We all have bad days, terrible years and super shitty experiences;
the good news is!!  you do not have to and more importantly,
you should not be alone,
creating and/or having a support system is the key to
survive and thrive in this new social media society
especially if you live in a big city
and do not have much access to nature, in both cases,
because the countryside could also be very isolated,
and we humans are meant to be in packs, as our dear friends the wolfs;
having the tools to feel nourished and supported
when things are going downhill will change your life
into a more soothing experience.

I am gonna go through what works for me,
what helps me over and over to stay grounded and creative,
to tap into joy and kindness instead of self-sabotage.

First step:

Try to point out the cause of the problem:
what or who is making me feel, drained, sad, depressed, angry, anxiety.

Second step: 

Can I change the situation or talk to that person?

Here is where  things start  to get complicated and having
or creating a  support system will help us to go through,
move on or see the problem from a different perspective.
Sometimes we can not change circumstances and even less a person,
we will be hitting the wall and the only thing that will change
will be the size of our head.

Third Step :

Reach out to talk to someone,
yes, it could be openly asking for help or support,
or if  you are in the blame/guilty mode and prefer not to be vulnerable
just reach out one of your friends, even the one you only talk
once a year to but you know it is always there for you;
or a family member, to me works that I really do not talk with my
mom or relatives about my problems but,
just the fact to have a conversation with them brings so much clarity
to my reactions or how I am perceiving a  situation,
remember that even if we do not want to,
and we work hard on de-learning parental habits(will be a post just for this)
we carry so much on our shoulders from early years.

If none of these two are available for you,
and you are not under specialist supervision to talk to your therapist,
just go out !!!
Make contact with your neighbors, co-workers, vendors,
talking about the weather-related stuff
is a great ice breaker ;-))
socialize but not to the point you are so crazy-busy
that you forget, it is not about covering the problem
is about working through it without falling into
negative or destructive/ addictive behaviors:
overeating, drinking, use of a drug, negative self-talk, etc.

I am gonna share with you what works for me and,
I wished I had had or knew when I was a teenager,
when you are pointed as an outcast for your energy instead of
celebrated in the transition to adulthood as is done in other cultures.

4th Step: Self Care
we can put our self into social media, cars, Netflix, agendas, family… 
we spend so much time in our heads, giving power to everything but ourselves.